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pixiewithpens's avatar

being a hater online is the easiest thing in the world. writing and sharing poetry? that takes skill and heart and guts. also….you can do your thing without them. they can’t do theirs without you.

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Oooh, I think I need to get out another post-it note b/c this is GOOD. Thank you!

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Ciel Skål's avatar

lovely words for unfortunate circumstances. Thank you for sharing❤️

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Camille's avatar

⚡️👏🏼⚡️♥️

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L. Cohen's avatar

As I prepare to make a chapbook of some crazy poems I wrote, I start to worry about how it will be perceived and who in the real physical world, people I know, would I trust to see it? It is a really weird question to ponder and yet I am proud of this work, even as I know it can be so easily misunderstood. Poetry is a very vulnerable thing! That vulnerability might be the hardest part of it.

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

I completely get that. The fear of being misunderstood held me back for a long time. I think it's inevitable, especially in poetry where metaphor and figurative language play such a large role. The fact that YOU are proud of this work is what matters. I'd love to read your chapbook someday. I promise to hold it tenderly!

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Jessica Aure's avatar

I'm so sorry that's a rough experience! Going viral seems like such a double edged sword. I hope your son gets better soon ❤️

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Thank you, Jessica

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Darlene Moore Berg's avatar

Just read the poem. The cry of a mother’s heart knowing there will be a day, a time when the world will try to crush his spirit. One critical word by a music teacher and my child never sang again.

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Oof, my heart. Thank you for reading.

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Julie from Maps to Herself's avatar

It still hurts and maybe it will never stop hurting, but how brave and beautiful you still choose to bring your truth into the light

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Thank you, Julie

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Alex Dawson's avatar

I’m so proud of you!! Your poem made it onto “read a little poem”! That’s huge. Everything that becomes widely read inevitably faces negative feedback.

You are such a talent. The haters will hate but I know you’ll keep doing beautiful things! 💐

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Thank you, Alex!

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Caroline's avatar

From one poet mom to another, the poem is beautiful and I hope your kid is feeling better.

I think internet users, and maybe specifically social media users should unlearn the impulse to always critique or have an opinion or a "take" on things. I would like to replace the desire to critique with the desire to experience.

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Ohh I love that. The desire to experience. Beautiful. And thank you.

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Josey Lee's avatar

Just remember how hard it is to build something and how very easy it is to tear it apart. You did the hard work while they sat around disparaging what they could never do.

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Another one for the post-it note. Thank you.

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Ashley L Case's avatar

Allison, I am so sorry to hear about your ER visits and poetry criticism! I am sure I would take it all just as personally, but please, don’t believe it! Your writing is incredibly meaningful and inspiring.❤️

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Thank you for these sweet words, Ashley!

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sonja ringo's avatar

I think perhaps getting torn apart on Reddit is a prerequisite to success and so in that case, congrats — you’ve made it!! Keep on doing your thing 💗💗 and that’s such good advice from fellow poets!

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

😅 Thanks, Sonja!

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Kait Quinn's avatar

Thank you for sharing this and also the words of wisdom from other writers. Your poems are wonderful and meaningful and for every person who doesn't see it, there are even more who do.

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Thank you, Kait. I admire your work so much, so this means a lotttt coming from you.

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Alex E's avatar

"Haters gonna hate hate hate." Love the wisdom alter you setup!

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Amelia Jantzi's avatar

The internet can be so harsh. As a fellow mom of a small boy, when I read that poem of yours it made me tear up a bit. It is a thing of beauty coming directly from a mother’s heart.

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Thank you, Amelia!

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Ashley C. Shannon's avatar

All the hugs. Congrats on reaching so many readers! And I think you landed on the right space. I like the saying, "You aren't tacos. You can't please everyone."

Keep writing your lovely words!! Those who need them will find you. (Ignore the rest!)

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Thank you, Ashley!

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Christian Meinke's avatar

Thanks for this one - I always figure not everyone is going to be your audience, spend time on the ones who are.

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Allison Mei-Li's avatar

Thank you, Christian!

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Kassi Wilson's avatar

Do you need anymore beta-readers? I can help with this part. 💕

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